A short but excellent story….read on!
A frail old man went to live with his son, daughter-in-law, and four-year old grandson. The old man’s hands trembled, his eyesight was blurred, and his step faltered. The family ate together at the table. But the elderly grandfather’s shaky hands and failing sight made eating difficult. Peas rolled off his spoon onto the floor. When he grasped the glass, milk spilled on the tablecloth. The son and daughter-in-law became irritated with the mess. “We must do something about Grandfather,” said the son. “I’ve had enough of his spilled milk, noisy eating, and food on the floor.”
So the husband and wife set a small table in the corner. There, Grandfather ate alone while the rest of the family enjoyed dinner. Since Grandfather had broken a dish or two, his food was served in a wooden bowl. When the family glanced in Grandfather’s direction, sometimes he had a tear in his eye as he sat alone. Still, the only words the couple had for him were sharp admonitions when he dropped a fork or spilled food.
The four-year-old watched it all in silence.
One evening before supper, the father noticed his son playing with wood scraps on the floor. He asked the child sweetly, “What are you making?” Just as sweetly, the boy responded, “Oh, I am making a little bowl for you and Mama to eat your food when I grow up.” The four-year-old smiled and went back to work.
The words so struck the parents that they were speechless. Tears started to stream down their cheeks. Though no word was spoken, both knew what must be done. That evening the husband took Grandfather’s Hand and gently led him back to the family table. For the remainder of his Days he ate every meal with the family. And for some reason, neither husband nor wife seemed to care any longer when a fork was dropped, milk spilled, or the tablecloth soiled.
Children are remarkably perceptive. Their eyes ever observe, their ears ever listen, and their minds ever process the messages they absorb. If they see us patiently provide a happy home atmosphere for family members, they will imitate that attitude for the rest of their lives. The wise parent realizes that every day the building blocks are being laid for the child’s future. Let’s be wise builders and role models.
“Life is about people connecting with people, and making a positive difference.” Take care of yourself, and those you love, …today, and everyday! That regardless of your relationship with your parents, you’ll miss them when they’re gone from your life.
Remember that making a “living” is not the same as making a “life.”
Remember that if you pursue happiness, it will elude you. But, if you focus on your family, your friends, the needs of others, your work and doing the very best you can, happiness will find you. Sometimes people just need a little something to make them smile.
People will forget what you said…
People will forget what you did…
But people will never forget how you made them feel…
(source: unknown)
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January 15, 2009 at 1:03 pm
clary
This was beautiful, great message. A good reflection for everyone. Thanks for sharing it.
January 15, 2009 at 9:11 pm
farhanah
Salaams dear Sid, a story that is truly worth sharing time and time again, jazakhallah hun xx
January 16, 2009 at 2:56 am
Umm Layth
as salamu ‘alaykum and THANK YOU for sharing this strong reminder. May Allah increase you in khair. Aameen
This was a hard read for my heart because as a mother I know I have a lot of responsibility on my shoulders and looking at my own upbringing and all the things I copied from my parents I realize that I need to get my act together… ya Rabb! Ya Rabb!
January 17, 2009 at 9:58 pm
sidramushtaq
Thanks Clary for your comment, and I am glad you enjoyed reading it.
I found this story quite moving so thought I’d share. It reminded me of how often we forget that when we see older people struggle, it may well be us in that situation in years to come if Allah wills.
May Allah make it easy for you Umm Layth! I’m sure you are doing a cracking job with mothermood 🙂
Oh and thanks for dropping by Farhanah 😉
January 18, 2009 at 6:54 pm
Farah K
Salaam siid janii!!
I love your blog, jazakAllah for sharing this story!